Relationship doubts: are they my own insecurities or a result of my partner’s actions?

Relationships serve as a landscape in which our insecurities and our worst qualities can surface. I believe this phenomenon happens in both safe/healthy and unsafe/unhealthy relationships. For many (if not all) of us, we often fear being abandoned or deeply wounded. If we are in a safe, healthy, committed relationship, these insecurities can be assuaged …

In Defense of Emotions…

Stop for a moment and think of the term: emotion. What comes up for you? Here are some things that immediately come to my mind: “Oh, she’s so emotional;” “don’t be so emotional!”; feelings; good and bad emotions; eye rolls; the episode of the Bachelor that I watched last night; crying; screaming; laughing.  Looking at my list, I notice messages that …

Struggling with Singleness During the Holidays

I’ve put off writing about the topic of singleness for a long time. It’s something I’ve felt I should write about for a while. When I saw that it was on my schedule to write about this week, I thought, “Hmm, maybe I’ll write about something else instead.” But I decided to do what I’m …