Am I in Love with the Wrong Person?

Amanda arrived for her first counseling appointment. She sat down on the couch, handed in her opening paperwork, and immediately burst into tears. After a few minutes, she was able to explain what had brought her to counseling. She was afraid she was in love with “the wrong man.” Amanda was a bright, attractive woman …

Am I Ready to Date After My Divorce?

I was recently asked how one knows when they’re ready to start dating again after they’ve been divorced. The answer can frustrate folks, in that there is no formulaic answer – it really does depend on the individual and the circumstance.  I don’t know about you, but I like formulaic answers. They tend to give me …

Dating After Divorce: A PICK Group

I’m so excited to announce the launch of our fall Premarital Interpersonal Choices & Knowledge (PICK) group! This group will be specifically for women who’ve been through a divorce and who would like a practical guide for building and establishing healthy and fulfilling long-term relationships. Dating after divorce can feel overwhelming and scary. Is the dating …

Friendships and Marriage

I’ve never been big on Valentine’s Day.  (You’re probably wondering why I’m writing about Valentine’s Day in the summertime, but hang with me…I promise I have a point!) Even when I was dating someone in the month of February, I always felt the sentiment of the holiday to feel a bit…forced. I felt I had …

Get Off the Struggle Bus

“You want me to accept what?!” Sometimes when I talk with clients about allowing their difficult emotions to exist inside of them, instead of offering some “prescription” or intervention for making them disappear, I notice I get one of two reactions: 1)  my clients look at me like I have two heads (and may be thinking about …

Wholeness

Happy Spring! It’s hard to believe we’re into APRIL already, but I am so glad that we are! I don’t know about you, but, as much as I love the first snowfall of winter, I start to not love the fifth snowfall, especially when it’s in March! I’m excited for spring and the new growth that comes …